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You’ll Be Paying for a Shrine to Abortion

ClickHandler.ashx_ You'll Be Paying for a Shrine to AbortionThe following is a copy of the email I received.  This topic is truly close to my heart, so much so that I decided to share it with you.  Every person can make a difference.  Take a few seconds and call if you agree. By the way, the picture is of a baby at 24 weeks, which is when one can have a late term abortion.  I made it small to shield little ones, you can click on it to enlarge.  The call is worth it.

How would you feel about your daughter or granddaughter taking a school field trip to Washington, D.C., excited to learn about American history, and only being sold “role models” like Planned Parenthood founder Margaret Sanger…promiscuity promoter Gloria Steinem…and “free love” advocate Victoria Woodhull?

The proposed National Women’s History Museum (NWHM) will glorify abortion and fuel the radical feminist movement for decades to come. How do I know this? The NWHM board is overwhelmingly filled with people who are pro-abortion and leftist in their ideology. See a detailed report by our friends at Concerned Women for America (CWA) here.

Even more, the proposed museum’s website references Margaret Sanger nine times and Victoria Woodhull over 20, while referencing Phyllis Schlafly only once and not mentioning Beverly LaHaye at all. It also highlights Sandra Fluke, while ignoring Jeane Kirkpatrick.

Taxpayers, like you, will eventually foot the bill for this national shrine to abortion. While the NWHM claims that it will be privately funded, its true intentions are to follow in the footsteps of the Smithsonian Institution’s National Museum of African American History and Culture and the National Museum of the American Indian. These museums respectively received over $50 million and $30 million from American taxpayers.

Please stand with 1MM before it’s too late. We can put a stop to this, but we need you to act now and call House Leadership. Tell them to oppose H.R. 863 until safeguards are added to ensure that this museum will not be paid for with federal funds nor be filled with Left-wing propaganda.

Please call:

• Speaker John Boehner – 202-225-6205
• Leader Eric Cantor – 202-225-2815
• Conference Chair Cathy McMorris Rodgers – 202-225-2006

We must not allow the Left’s agenda to become our legacy. 1MM and CWA is leading the charge to preserve the faith-filled legacy of America’s women in the National Women’s History Museum – but we need your help.

To honor women is a wonderful idea – but we cannot allow the radical Left to create a distorted lens through which future generations of girls will come to see the role of American women.

Please, make at least one phone call today!


Monica Cole, Director

Originally posted 2014-05-06 21:37:57.

Stay Safe Online 6 Tips That Will Help You

Stay safe online! It’s essential in this age of technology.  The Me Too movement began in 2008 to promote awareness regarding both sexual harassment and sexual assault.  It is known across the world in different translations and brought attention to their prevalence in the workplace.

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I feel like it is also bringing awareness in other areas and encouraging and empowering victims to speak out rather than hide in the shame they feel. This is long overdue.  As a victim myself, I didn’t speak out because of shame and that was difficult to overcome.

While it’s too late for me to do anything about, I can certainly take steps to make sure it never happens again, and so can you.  Since it’s so prevalent, I’ve done a lot about online dating lately as there are so many free dating sites and it has become so common.

What I would like to address this go round is harassment and online abuse.  I suppose I should have posted about them before I posted about dating safety, but it really didn’t occur to me.  So, here are some tips to help you deal with those unfortunate occurrences.

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 6 Tips That Will Help You Stay Safe Online

  1. Don’t be afraid to block someone! You are valuable, you do not deserve and should not tolerate person’s being mean to you.  Block them. The sooner the better!  Especially trolls! Trolls are those people who only have negative things to say and can get pretty mean on posts and such.
  2. Contact Admin. Every site has admin, If you are being harassed, threatened or abused online and blocking isn’t working, contact admin and report them.  I suggest keeping the profile links or screenshots to pass on, this will help admin be able to find them and keep them off their servers.
  3. Call the Police: If at any point the person seems to have found you or is making threats of physical harm, contact your local police. Even if there isn’t anything they can do immediately, they can put it on file and add extra patrols in your neighborhood.
  4. Never, ever put anything revealing on your profile or in photos. Remove the GEO data from photos before posting them.  Also try not to post a lot of photos from the same location (like your favorite hangout) and don’t put specifics.  Rather than saying “I love Fatty Patty’s in City X” on social media, perhaps put “I love the Fatty Patty’s Chain!”  If it’s not a chain, I’d just say a general comment about pubs or whatever.
  5. Leave out or minimize location information in posts/profiles. For example, rather than posting the city you live in, perhaps post the region instead. Predators will take the time to go through all of your posts and find other accounts in order to narrow down where you live.
  6. Speak Out! Don’t be afraid to speak out when you feel harassed, threatened or, especially, are harmed in any way.  No matter who it is.

Remember the importance of this topic.  Today it is harder than ever to stay safe online with so much technology so easily available. You are a valuable asset,  Stay Safe Online!

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For the Girls

Ladies For the Girls
A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting with her mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of  life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter..

‘Don’t forget your  sisters,’ she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. ‘They’ll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you may have, you are still going to need sisters. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them.’
‘Remember that ‘sisters’ means ALL the women… your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other women relatives too. ‘You’ll need other women. Women always do.’
What a funny piece of advice!’ the young woman thought. Haven’t I just gotten married? Haven’t I just joined the couple-world? I’m now a married woman, for goodness sake! A grownup! Surely my husband and the family we may start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!’
But she listened to her mother. She kept contact with her sisters and made more women friends each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her mother really knew what she was talking about.  As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, sisters are the mainstays of her life.
After more than 50 years of living in this world, here is what I’ve learned:
Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.

Jobs come and go.
Love waxes and wanes.
Men don’t do what they’re supposed to do.
Hearts break.

Parents die.
Colleagues forget  favors.

Careers end.

Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girl friend is never farther away than needing her can reach.  When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley’s rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open  arms at the valley’s end.  Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you….Or come in and carry you out.
Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law,  sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family: all bless our life!
The world wouldn’t be the same without women, and neither would I.. When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the  incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other.


Ladies, I hope that you enjoyed this.  It was a forward from a friend and made me think of so many amazing women who have been there for me throughout my life.  How true these words are!  Remember the ladies in your life, those that make a difference everyday and those that come in and out.  Send one a note today, forward this to her, just do something to let her know you love her!

Please take a second and leave a comment about a sister in your life!  I’d love to hear a story about the wonderful sisters in your life.

Originally posted 2014-03-27 06:48:41.

How Hobbies Can Benefit Your Health: Guest Post By Leslie Vandever

Untitled-1024x1024 How Hobbies Can Benefit Your Health: Guest Post By Leslie VandeverThe Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) defines “mental health” this way: a state of well-being in which the individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community.

Practicing a hobby achieves every one of those mental health goals. Let’s go over them one by one. Mental health:

·       “[is] a state of well-being in which the individual realizes his or her own abilities …” When you take up a hobby, whether it’s knitting, woodcarving, gardening or even just walking the dog, you’re doing something that you get better at over time. You can see the changes in your ability to accomplish your hobby, which makes you feel good and increases your self-esteem. Your knitting goes from being too loose or too tight to being just right. You have the confidence to challenge yourself with increasingly more intricate and difficult patterns. Your end result goes from a crooked scarf to a beautiful sweater. It takes time, but it’s worth it.

·       “[the individual] … can cope with the normal stresses of life …” Practicing a hobby is a great stress reliever. It can’t make problems go away, but by distracting your mind from dwelling on them—particularly the kind of problems that you can do little about—you allow it to rest and relax. The mind-body connection is so intertwined that by resting your mind with a hobby you enjoy—maybe even love—your body relaxes too. And often, taking your mind off troubles for a while can let your subconscious mind find the creative solution to them you’ve been looking for.

·       “[the individual] … can work productively and fruitfully …” Practicing a hobby project that has a clear beginning and end is immensely satisfying. If your hobby is carving ducks, for instance, the challenge of transforming that plain block of wood into a sculpture that showcases the quiet, glowing beauty of the shaped and finished wood, the beauty of the duck in nature, and your mastery of your craft gives you confidence in your ability to be productive and fruitful, not only with your hobby, but in your life in general.

·       [the individual] … is able to make a contribution to his or her community.” Practicing your hobby, even when it’s one that you only practice at home, can allow you to contribute to your community in several ways. Using the duck example again: procuring the wood for your project may take you into the community and give you opportunities to talk with others about what you’re planning. You may make some new friends in the process. Once you’ve finished the carving, you can display it in your home or show it at the local co-op art gallery you volunteer at a couple times a month. You might sell your duck carving there or, to help with a local cause, donate it for sale at a fundraising auction. Any of these things make you an active contributor to your community at large.

Your hobby can also have a beneficial effect on your physical health. Again, this is true because the mind has such a profound effect on the body. When we’re happy with ourselves, or challenged in an intriguing way, we feel better, even if we’re physically ill or limited by chronic pain. And doing a hobby—using our hands, concentrating, enjoying ourselves—calms and focuses the mind, and contributes to our overall well-being.

The best thing of all about hobbies is that there are so many to choose from. Anyone can take up a hobby and reap the benefits in both mind and body.

Leslie Vandever is a professional journalist and freelance writer. Under the pen-name “Wren,” she also writes a blog about living well with rheumatoid arthritis called RheumaBlog ( In her spare time, Vandever enjoys cooking, reading and working on the Great American Novel.


·       Do Something You’re Good At. (n.d.) Mental Health Foundation. Retrieved on February 13, 2014 from

·       Mental Health Basics. (2011, July 1) Mental Health. Center for Disease Control and Prevention. Retrieved on February 13, 2014 from

·       Dich, D. Hobbies and Mental Health. (n.d.) All Things Depression: Strategies for Anxiety, Depression, Stress and Anger. Retrieved on February 13, 2014 from

Originally posted 2014-03-07 06:45:23.

Online Dating, Perfect Profile Tips for SM!

Online Dating has become a huge thing these days and for good reason. These tips will help you take the perfect profile photo!

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There are great people out there who don’t want to play the ‘game’ and online dating helps to eliminate the need for that.  When I was young, the internet was that dial up sound you hear in old movies.  Now, it’s in the palm of nearly everyone’s hands.  That can be a powerful thing, it can also be scary.  If you are doing online dating, or considering it, be sure and check out my Safety post for online dating, of course it is good for any dating.

Chief ZooKeeper and I recently celebrated our 11th Birthdaversary.  When we met online, it was a very new thing.  People, especially in the South, just didn’t end up married when they met that way.  Of course, I have a very dear friend who has been married 15 years now, and met her husband online as well.  I still remember the funny looks I’d get when I told people how we met.  Now, that information is met with a response containing a story of theirs or a loved ones experience!

If you aren’t a socialite, or don’t have the time or desire to meet someone by going to a club, bars, or wherever all the time then online dating is perfect for you.  If you have time, jump online to one of the many dating sites and see who might be out there.  It’s super easy to find free online dating and you don’t have to waste time talking wo people you aren’t interested in!  While there are some paid sites, there are many more dating sites that have free accounts or offer free trials.  What could it hurt to get out there?

I love that it’s so easy these days to get on free online dating sites these days.  I wanted

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  1. First and foremost, remove the geo tag from your photos before you post them anywhere.  You can see how to do that here.  This will ensure no one can pull the location that the photos were taken at to help protect you from being found when you don’t want to be!

2. Rather than posting an attempt to be sexy, post pictures showing your smile.  There are studies that show how a smile actually emits feel good chemicals in the brain!  This is why we automatically return smiles (most of the time).

3. Don’t use a photo that is more than a year old.  A lot can change in a year, we don’t want to post something where we look way different and there may be subtle changes that you don’t notice.

4. Post action shots: action shots give the reader a better sense of you than a headshot could ever portray. Perhaps some shots from an outing with friends or family?  I do not recommend ever posting pics with children; I’m a little protective over the littles!

5. Use Color to stand out.  This will help your photo stand out!  If you like bright colors, wear them! Red is particularly fabulous for dating site photos.

6. Include Full Body shots as well as lots of ‘medium’ shots.  These are pretty much the upper body that shows the background of the photos.

However you go about socializing online, whether it’s for dating or just making new friends, get out there and have fun!  It’s not a huge commitment, if you don’t feel like logging on then don’t, if someone gives you bad vibes then block them (it will be like you disappeared), don’t be afraid to try it out!  Maybe you’ll meet the person of your dreams!

For my blogging buddies, check out these tips fro Creating Fantastic Content!

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Self Improvement in Just Moments!

Moment-1024x1024 Self Improvement in Just Moments!It is said that you aren’t supposed to focus on I and me in writing.  I’m not sure where that rule came from or even why that is, though I can take a few guesses.  This post has a lot of those in them.  But that’s okay, it’s going to illustrate my point.

Today, I got up and was ready to work.  I spent the weekend in bed, sick and miserable.  Finally feeling decent enough to get out of bed and be productive I was so excited and ready to get to work.  I have reviews to do, giveaways to post and even just random things that I’ve jotted down that I plan to do posts on.  However, plans don’t work that way.  See, I’ve spent the last few days sick, tossing and turning in my own misery not thinking about anything at all except getting better, how I was behind on so many things, how I had ten million dishes and 300 thousand loads of laundry, along with a ton of things to do for my website and for my Mom and friends and how I needed to do things for my husband.  I don’t know if you noticed, but there are a lot of I’s in those worries.  Even when it was things about others, it landed on what I needed to do.

I decided that the first thing I was going to do was get some coffee then go straight to work.  Fortunately, God had other plans.  See, in all this insanity of my own thoughts, desires and problems, I forgot about Him.  Don’t get me wrong, I was praying like crazy for healing and for others, but that wasn’t about Him, that too was about me.  So when I began to work, God reminded me I needed to pray for a friend (a few specific requests I hadn’t quite paid enough attention to), then He sent me down a path to focus on Him for a minute.  Nay, a while.  I’m still not ready to get to work and that’s okay, because God is good and He knew just what I needed.  Physical healing is wonderful, but my spirit needed some lifting up and a little workout and a lot of reminding.

I had a deep desire to write this, it sort of hit me out of nowhere.  So, if you are reading this then perhaps God is trying to help you remember too.  Take a minute, take 5 or ten, do whatever you need to do to focus on Him for a while.  That other stuff, my huge to do list and pile of insanity, it’s still there and that’s okay.  I’m cool with that, as I needed more than anything this time with Him.

I’m sharing some videos that touched me and helped get me focused on Him.  Maybe they’ll help you too, maybe you don’t need to watch them at all and you can just get yourself focused on Him for a while.  Music helps me tune the world out.

May God bless you and Keep you,


Originally posted 2014-02-03 12:48:04.

Dealing with Loss and Grief

As some of you may have noticed, I’ve not be posting for a while.  We’ve been dealing with some family issues that culminated with Monkey moving 8 hours away.  We are worried and upset but trying to get back to life.  Now I have the joy of facing up to all the work I turned my head to!  I hope you’ll all stick with me and send prayers!  They are greatly needed and appreciated!



Originally posted 2014-01-02 12:36:49.

6 Tips to Defeat Sadness

tips 6 Tips to Defeat SadnessLet me start by being totally honest. While I hope this post helps you to feel better should you ever need the extra reminder, I’m writing this post because I am in a funk. I can think of a dozen things I need to do that I normally enjoy doing (like posting the reviews and giveaways sitting on my desk, making cookies  and Christmas gifts, or simply enjoying life) but instead I am sitting on this chair, having to force myself to do anything I enjoy. The odd thing is that I WANT to do the things I love, I just seem to be missing that umph that takes things from want to action. It’s not that my life is bad, I am very blessed, it’s just  those few things that nag and worry my thoughts until I can think of nothing else. I really hate those!  They drive me absolutely insane. Taking a normally happy person to dark depths of sadness, a constant malaise that holds so tightly it becomes hard to breathe or do anything enjoyable.
It just so happens that Christmas is a little over a week away as I’m writing this. Christmas is my absolute favorite time of year. I love decorating, making cookies, watching holiday movies, doing gift projects and so many other activities that accompany the holiday season. This year, however, my decorations haven’t made it all the way out of the box, no cookies have seen the inside of my oven and the gifts I’ve bought for my family remain unwrapped and disillusioned. I thought that if I forced myself, my holiday spirit would come back after I wrapped a gift or two, so I wrapped three and was reminded that this year I don’t particularly care. Not exactly my typical holiday spirit. Not at all, really.
So, here are some thoughts I found from around the web to help myself and any of you who may need it lay down the Christmas blues and pick up that holiday spirit. Hope they help us all!

  1. Read- Find an escape in something: a book, magazine, anything to get your mind on something else.
  2. Listen to Music- Find some feel good music and blare it!  Leave it playing while you go throughout your day, eventually it will get in there and you’ll find yourself moving!
  3. Socialize- I know, you have no desire to be social.  That’s okay, it’s understandable.  Thing is, it will help.  So force yourself to call that friend who always has something to say and let them do the talking for a while.  Go out to dinner, hang out somewhere, doesn’t matter what you do, just do something!
  4. Journal- just write whatever comes to mind, often we end up letting out that suppressed sadness and either find a solution or simply feel the relief of no longer holding on to it.
  5. Exercise- I don’t know what to say about this one, it’s not one I’m real excited about trying but I suppose it will be worth it if it helps, right….  If all else fails, I’ll try this one!  LOL
  6. Restrict Your Thoughts- whatever it is that plagues your brain with negativity- avoid it!  When your mind starts to go to it, redirect yourself to a more positive set of thoughts.  With time, it will become much easier and maybe even your new habit!

All that being said, I’m off to put it into practice.  Hopefully it will work and I’ll be feeling much better soon.  I hope that it helps you too!!!  In the meantime, leave some tips of what makes you feel better!  We could all use them!!!

Sending love and happy thoughts to all of you!

Originally posted 2013-12-17 15:03:09.

Prison to Freedom

This video is from the program in the prison that enabled us to visit and speak to the ladies in the prison.  I have a whole post prepared of my story, but I wanted to share this by itself.  Mainly because it tells their story, not mine.  Even having been there, knowing so much of what is in the video, I can’t do justice to the feeling of change and hope among these women, women who are complete strangers but have that ‘something’ about them.  It’s amazing how that works, how a power mightier than anything else can take women who will quite possibly die in prison free of a life of pain and turmoil within the bounds of bricks and barbed wire.

During our trip, we were able to meet some of these women.  It was amazing to meet women who had truly been changed.  It brings a new meaning to the word for me.  I’ve studied psychology and have taken a special interest in seeking to understand people who have committed terrible crimes.  For whatever reason, I have always wanted to understand the reasons behind their actions.  Over time, I’ve sought out the common denominator and found it repeatedly to be brokenness.  No matter the background, no matter the personality, a deep rooted emptiness seems to sit at the bottom of us.  Fortunately, not all of us have come to the point that the men and women in prison see.

If you’d like to learn more about this program, see more of the amazing videos, or even donate to help this amazing program, click here.

Originally posted 2013-10-26 05:37:32.

I’m Going to Prison

prison-300x260 I'm Going to PrisonI will soon be leaving to go to a prison to minister to the women there.  I’m not special, just average like just about anyone else.  That’s why I need your help.  I would love to have you pray for me, the other women going as well as those who we speak to.

I’ve been to a lot of prisons and jails throughout my life.  Mostly to visit family, a couple of times because I forgot to pay fines, those trips were shortlived but sucked butt.  Thanks be to God we had help to take care of those quickly!  Though at the time it didn’t feel like quick enough.

Going to speak to women who are in the process of spending a long period of time to pay for their mistakes has put a lot of thought in me.  We all pay for our mistakes one way or another, whether it is one that lands us in jail, one we managed to ‘get away with,’ or one that wasn’t serious enough for the justice system.  I am praying that God speakthrough me, to help those women heal.

Having been through a lot and having studied a good bit of psychology and criminals, I have learned that there is always some reason that people turn out to do what they do, in my experience it stems from pain.  I know drug addicts and alcoholics who are haunted by things so deeply that it’s their excuse to escape.  I’ve read about violent criminals who grew up desperate for love.  All they ever wanted was for someone to love them, only they didn’t realize that was the source of their anger or the cause of the problem until it was ‘too late’.  I’m super thankful that I didn’t end up in those situations.  I believe the quote is ‘but for the grace of God go I’, and that seems to be the one that fits.

To sum it up, the ladies and I (50 altogether) could use your prayers as we go to minister the women there.  I know that odds are I will get some sort of blessing, probably more than the blessing I’m trying to give those women.  I am thankful that God has put me in a place where I can at least try to help.  The Bible says God doesn’t necessarily call the equipped, but rather he equips those He calls (Hebrews 13:21) so I have faith that it will all work out.  😀 Thank you for your prayers, love and support.

Originally posted 2013-10-11 06:00:30.