Comments on: Divorce.

By: Tamra Phelps

Tamra Phelps — Thu, 14 May 2020 18:22:42 +0000

My parents divorced when I was a kid, too. Andit was not a friendly divorce. My Dad was cheating with a woman he eventually married and he had a drinking problem, so you can imagine the drama. I understand that decision not to mention your hurt because, well, who needs the drama you’d have to live with, right? But then you have to deal with the hurt. It sucks either way, doesn’t it? I guess I’d say you have a right to say ‘hey, I was a little hurt I wasn’t told about the birthday party.’ But you have to be ready for the aftereffects. Maybe you could put it like ‘Hey, next time somebody remind me so I can be there.’ That way it doesn’t sound like you think they deliberately left you out but it gives them a little nudge to not forget you next time.

By: Tina

Tina — Wed, 13 May 2020 15:34:33 +0000

I got divorced 2 years ago and it was the best decision of my life.
xoxo
tina from wimpernverlängerung salzburg

By: Kaycee

Kaycee — Mon, 12 Aug 2013 02:21:50 +0000

In reply to MM. Thank you. It really is lame but I am thankful that my Aunties and my cousins have enough love for me to defend me and look out for me. :D I am very blessed that way.

By: Kaycee

Kaycee — Mon, 12 Aug 2013 02:20:00 +0000

In reply to Jackie. Thank you very much. :D

By: Kaycee

Kaycee — Mon, 12 Aug 2013 02:11:24 +0000

In reply to Alyshia. Thank you. I am fortunate in that my Aunts and cousins love me very much and will defend me, even when I don't want them to (I don't want to cause family fights). The dramatic side of family (not my Dad's side) is like that with my Mom, brother and I. I avoid them. I am so thankful for my husband's family! Funny, I'm extremely white and married a black man, ONLY white person in the family and they are more accepting than the majority of my Momma's family! Funny how that works.

By: Alyshia

Alyshia — Sun, 11 Aug 2013 17:50:09 +0000

Life is the same here feeling left out my whole life and what’s worse is they act like its in my head I am grown now and know it is not and never was in my head. The hard part is making sure it doesn’t hurt my kids. You are strong and this will make you stronger and we are listening!

By: mongupp

mongupp — Sun, 11 Aug 2013 17:10:43 +0000

Praying for you Kaycee!

By: MM

MM — Sun, 11 Aug 2013 16:34:13 +0000

Im sorry that this is happening. I dont have your specific hurts but I have had a good share of my own and I can only imagine how you are feeling right now. My husband has had a particularly hard time with his family because his parents have always played favorites and well, he wasnt it so I kind of know what you mean. We are constantly forgotten about, even our kids and it sucks. Anyway, sending my LOVE and PRAYERS! Hope you feel better soon 😀

By: Jackie

Jackie — Sun, 11 Aug 2013 15:06:48 +0000

Sending prayers and positive energy your way. Hope you are feeling a little better today.

By: Renee H.

Renee H. — Sun, 11 Aug 2013 04:33:56 +0000

We really are kindred spirits lol. I’m so sorry you have had to deal with this and believe me I know how much it sucks and hurts. My mother and I just started rebuilding our relationship after years of being cast aside. My parents were never married but split when I was 2. I talk to my dad on the computer often and will hopefully see him before years end so he can hold his grandkids for the first time ever! I totally get feeling left out as it was the reocurring theme of my life until a few years ago when I met my husband. In fact, none of my family (except for one of my cousins) was at my wedding because we weren’t talking. With God’s help and true forgiveness, those relationships can be mended. Trust me, for me to be saying we’re hopefully planning a renewal of vows in a year (5th anniversary) and inviting both of our families, is true evidence of the lack of limits God has and His goodness and mercy! You will be fine honey, we serve a MIGHTY GOD!! *hug*