Middle School Pre-Teen drama is the worst, or at least it seems life ending! Sometimes it’s difficult to know how to help our children, especially since we can see the whole picture and they can’t see past the moment just yet.
I will go ahead and add that middle school is very likely to be way different than when many of us were there. Kids today seem to be far more in tune with their emotions, and therefore hyper sensitive quire often. Which, I suppose, is understandable given that they are bombarded with far too much information 24 hours a day.
For me, middle school was a lot of transition that was very traumatic. Needless to say, the drama levels were off the charts and I did not navigate the vast amount of traumatic changes very well at all.
I’m thankful for my authentic best friend, who has been my best friend since before middle school but somehow we managed to survive that rocky period of time!
How to Help Your Child Thrive
- Listen. That’s it, just listen. Sometimes they just need to let it all out.
- Resist the urge to make judgements or take sides. Middle school is the absolute worst time for a parent to think one side or another is the right one to take, because they often switch friends on a weekly basis!
- Teach them to be thoughtful and caring for others, all without losing their own self worth.
- Help them learn to see both sides of things through demonstration in your every day lives. The good and the bad, all of the possibilities. Seems like the ‘Karens’ these days are a whole lot of people who can only see one side or take things out of context and run with it.
- Teach proper communication through emotion, ‘I’ statements are always a great thing to teach for great communication!
- Help them learn that not all friendships are real. Friendships based on the wrong things don’t come with the right friends, but we all know that already!
- Teach them to be a good friend so that they will know when they have good friends! We should treat people how we want to be treated and recognize that we don’t have to stick around when people are hateful.
BFF or NRF: A Girl’s Guide to Happy Friendships
Alright, this book is absolutely great! I really wish it would have been around when I was in middle school! The way it’s written and designed is super fun for kids, (think those 90’s teen magazines) and easy to understand. Perfect little book for our kids who are navigating the waters of middle school or crazy friendships!
Written by Jessica Speer, it is full of fun quizzes, colorful illustrations, and stories about pre-teen girls. Bff or NRF (Not Really Friends) is a fabulous interactive guidebook to help teach the ins and outs of youthful friendships. It addresses gossip, bullying and feeling left out while teaching ways to strengthen friendships that are meaningful.