Well, this book….Â I’ll just start with this: reading the first chapter brought up so many memories and nightmares.
A deep desire to help Dawn, the author.Â It is amazing that she feels she can share her pain with millions of people.
I know that this guide is for husbands, but I wanted to read it as an abused woman.
I also wanted to have it for my husband if it helped me and for my friend’s husband, as she too was abused.Â Furthermore, I can say I’m glad I got the book.
When a Woman You Loved Was Abused
The book takes one through a place to help understand why abuse took place.Â It helps to improve in the true capturing of what abuse is, how a woman may feel and have felt, as well as the journey to helping her.
The book is divided into three sections:
- Understanding the Survivor
- Understanding the Healing Process
- How You Can Help
Even as a victim, I feel like the words are helpful.Â I appreciate knowing that it wasn’t just me, as if having the knowledge that other women really do feel this way in writing validates my feelings.
Reading the book has also given me new things to understand.Â Things I never realized were connected to my abuse now make a lot more sense.
If you, or someone you love was sexually abused, I really recommend this book.Â Primarily for understanding.Â I know that if you were abused you probably feel you have a good understanding, and maybe you do, but I also know that I thought I understood and now realize I didn’t get it all.
Of course, I’ve never received treatment either.Â Most people in my life don’t know I was abused at all.Â Consider reading it, if for no other reason than it may actually help.
Dealing with this is difficult enough, understanding may give you the strength you need.
Also, I don’t usually do this, but if you were abused and need someone to talk to, reach out.Â Find someone in your life you can talk to.Â If you can’t talk to anyone, my contact email is on the PR page if you’d like to utilize it.
I can’t stress enough how important it is to overcome these feelings, and you can.
The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services reports that 80 percent of childhood abuse victims later suffer from at least one abuse-induced psychological disorder.
It’s proven that the effects of childhood abuse follow women into adulthood. Yet few men are prepared to deal with those effects, even when their own wife is the one who is suffering.
And their wife’s suffering becomes their own suffering as their needs aren’t being met by a wife who is powerless to control her inner turmoil.
Author, pastor, and survivor Dawn Scott Jones candidly shares her own abuse experience to help husbands understand the varied emotions, fears, distorted thoughts, and triggers that hold their wives captive.
In practical and accessible language, Jones explains the stages of the healing journey (processing denial, asking for help, grieving, expressing anger, learning to forgive, and finding resolution). Building on that knowledge,
Jones then moves to an honest discussion of what husbands can do to help. Whether it’s creating a healing environment, understanding the need for control, building trust, or even just praying for healing, a husband plays an active role in helping his wife survive and thrive despite her past abuse.
Offering hope for a healthy marriage relationship, When a Woman You Love Was Abused answers the questions men have and offers the advice they need to help their wives finally find peace.
Meet Dawn The Author
For over twenty years God has graciously used Dawn to touch the lives of people through her affecting personal testimony, her humor, and her writing.
Dawnâs past challenges have deepened and enriched her ministry; enabling her to truly understand and relate to what others are going through.
Dawn is an Ordained Minister with the Assemblies of God. She has served in various capacities including Executive Team Pastor, Small Groups Pastor, and Womanâs Ministry Director. Dawn travels Nation-wide speaking, training and consulting.
Find out more about Dawn Scott at http://www.dawnjones.org/.
Cat Hoort of Kregel says, “”We are seeking to provide safe means for Christian women to be vulnerable with each other, to seek help and guidance from authors and counselors, and to find encouragement from those who have shared similar experiences.
Our hope is that the Women Redeemed webcast will become a forum for hurting women as well as for those who can help. Kim, Teske, and Dawn are all survivors and their stories will surely inspire and equip other women to move toward healing and hope.”
Originally posted 2012-09-13 05:00:00.